No-one is going to be surprised to hear that allocation of household chores is a common gripe and cause of arguments, and a hot topic in couple counselling sessions. I always let couples know that there is no ‘correct’ or ‘fair’ way to manage things, beyond what...
Ejaculating within the first few ‘thrusts’ of penetrative sex can be frustrating! Clients attend sex therapy looking for a way to ‘last longer’ as they might be experiencing distressing feelings of shame, frustration and even avoiding sex. They have googled 'premature...
Couples often seek relationship counselling because they are having lots of arguments. They love each other and hate feeling like this but are stuck in bad habits. Counselling can be a great support to unpack certain themes and stuck points. I hear all the time “This...
Cairns EMDR Goes beyond Talk Therapy. Counselling is an effective step towards wellbeing. It helps to talk, but sometimes, despite all the talking and doing the ‘right’ things - nothing changes. This is where Transformative Trauma Therapies like EMDR Therapy Cairns...
The ancient Goddess and Earth Religions understood the sacredness of the body; they worshipped nature and embraced the cycles of birth, life and death. They saw beauty in the bloody mess of menstruation, sex, birth and death.Before Tantra came on the scene, most of...
I have a prayer for you, or really an invitation.. That you may deepen into the everyday moments- and turn them into little pieces of ritual. Taking every chance to recognise the exquisite ecstasy available to us in this playground of existence. Seize these little...
As a Clinical Sexologist, I have the privileged opportunity to know the intricacies of many people’s sex lives. Therefore, I can say directly that there is no ‘normal’ or right number of times a month or ways of being intimate that are right for everyone. What is...
Many people think scheduling sex sounds boring and makes it dull, however scheduling sex can have enormous benefits. Sex often happens late at night when both are in bed at the end of the day. This can be lovely and orgasms can promote a lovely restful night’s sleep,...
As a counsellor, people often ask what is the difference between what I offer and seeing a psychologist. Counsellors have been trained in the art of listening and supporting people. Counsellors do not put as much focus on mental health diagnoses or use as many...
People come to counselling for a wide range of reasons. Some want to heal from traumatic experiences in their past such as childhood abuse, sexual assault, growing up with critical parents or other specific events. But many people see a therapist because they just...