As a Clinical Sexologist, I have the privileged opportunity to know the intricacies of many people’s sex lives. Therefore, I can say directly that there is no ‘normal’ or right number of times a month or ways of being intimate that are right for everyone. What is...
Many people think scheduling sex sounds boring and makes it dull, however scheduling sex can have enormous benefits. Sex often happens late at night when both are in bed at the end of the day. This can be lovely and orgasms can promote a lovely restful night’s sleep,...
As a counsellor, people often ask what is the difference between what I offer and seeing a psychologist. Counsellors have been trained in the art of listening and supporting people. Counsellors do not put as much focus on mental health diagnoses or use as many...
People come to counselling for a wide range of reasons. Some want to heal from traumatic experiences in their past such as childhood abuse, sexual assault, growing up with critical parents or other specific events. But many people see a therapist because they just...
One of the most common reasons for seeking a sex therapist is a perceived lack of libido. Libido is another word for ‘sex drive’, how driven you are towards being sexual and how often you feel sexual desire and arousal. It can be helpful to understand that desire and...
A common reason that people seek couple counselling is at the revelation of an affair. The knee-jerk reaction is to ask the person who betrayed to leave and end it there, but many couples choose to try counselling first and see if healing may be possible. And yes...
Tantric practitioners have a different understanding of Chakras than that of the new age system. Rather than seeing chakras as spiritual organs that open and close, chakras are understood as different levels of consciousness available to us as part of the human...
1. Spiritual Bypassing. Have you ever heard someone proudly proclaim they were stolen from, slandered or abused and "didn't even get angry". Or experienced a big hurt, relationship wound or a scary medical prognosis and give a spiritual cliche like "everything happens...
Sahasrara the crown chakra is our connection to source. There is pure Oneness at this level, as it is without the duality that exists at the level of the other chakras. If we think of chakras as levels of consciousness, as has been proposed in this series of articles,...